Reflecting on her personal journey, Bertinelli recalled a pivotal moment when she chose to free herself from a lifelong struggle with weight loss. This shift in perspective was influenced by the passing of her ex-husband, Eddie Van Halen, in 2020, leading her to a profound realization about self-worth. In her memoir, Enough Already: Learning to Love the Way I Am Today, she explores the significance of finding contentment beyond physical appearance.
Bertinelli’s transformation isn’t just about rejecting societal beauty standards, but about embracing the joys of life. She encourages others to live in the moment, appreciating the beauty and simplicity of life rather than being constrained by weight.
In her candid reflections, Bertinelli touches on the challenges of overcoming societal conditioning, even recalling her mother’s mistreatment due to her weight. Despite these painful memories, her message remains hopeful and empowering — that one’s body does not determine their lovability.

Bertinelli has now learned to be kind to herself, no matter how she looks. She highlights that kindness matters far more than appearance and urges others to treat themselves with the same compassion. In a world fixated on body image, Bertinelli’s journey is a powerful testament to the transformative strength of self-love, going beyond the numbers on the scale.